This week I've been thinking about my chosen career and motherhood. And I have discovered something life-changing (thanks to a sweet mama who shared thoughts from her sister on a birthy FB group I'm in).
My career and motherhood are two separate things! My chosen career is homemaker. But motherhood is my calling. It is part of who I am, just like I am a daughter, sister, friend and wife. If I had chosen a career outside the home, maybe the difference would have been more obvious to me. If I had a different career, maybe I would have seen the difference earlier and known that my relationships with my children would come before my career when possible. But as a homemaker, I have been combining my career and motherhood as one thing! But they're separate!
My job as homemaker does not make me a better or worse mother. I get to set my own hours and do as much or as little work as I want in my job. No one is threatening to take over my job if I perform poorly one week (or string of weeks...I'm looking at you first trimester!). So the state of the house should not be more important than connecting with my children. Because our relationships, not our careers, are what matter. Even when you're a homemaker.
I haven't written out a list of New Year's goals yet but when I do, I want them to center around this thought. That connection with others trumps every household task and is the foundation of a good life!
You rock. I love this!
ReplyDeleteLove this. I want to do better at being able to let my job duties go over motherhood ones. My fav quote to remember is "never let a problem to be solved become more important than a person to be loved" (or something, by pres monson)
ReplyDeleteYou are wise beyond your years, Sister. As a mom, who works outside the home, this has been easier to distinguish. My priorities have always been: be a super mom, and an average teacher. Some days I can be great at both, but if it comes down to it, mom always wins. I like the thought that the housework is separate, score! Even better!
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